Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Words Spoken Cannot Be Retrieved

Just like spilled milk.
Can you really retrieve 100% back?
Even if you soak it up with a super absorbing sponge,
what about the spots on the floor?
Even when you try your best to squeeze every drop from the sponge back to the glass,
to create back the 'look' of a glass of milk,
the quantity will never be the same as before it was spilled.

Why am I talking about this?

Because I have a lump in my throat and I hadn't been feeling good about it.
So as my faithful readers of my blogs would know, I need to spit it out.
To make myself feel better.
To act as a reminder for myself that I should NOT be such a person too.

It was not me.
I'm in no way involved.

I LOVE and TREASURE EVERY FRIENDSHIP.
Regardless how we met.
Regardless how long we chat.
Regardless of our habitat.

Probably that's why I often have friends who come to me to tell me their deepest thoughts and their darkest secrets.
Over the years, this has Not decrease in numbers.
I guessed that tells alot about how much my friends trust me and I ALWAYS REMIND MYSELF, NEVER EVER to take that trust lightly.
***Thank You****
***Hugs***

The victim came to me.
Let's call the victim 'Y'
Y told me that the person Y least expected had been having negative thoughts about Y.
Let's call Y's friend 'X'.

X and Y had been friends for decadeS.
Y had always been looking out for X.
When X needed advise, X would call Y too.

Recently, their common friend told Y that X badmouthed Y.
Let's call this common friend W.

When I heard the full story from Y,  my first thought was, what's the MOTIVES behind the actions of W?

They are common friends.
What good is there to tell Y about how X feels, when its so negative?
Are you trying to break the relationship between Y and X?
To spark a quarrel?
My question to W is "Can you handle it if it really happened?!"
Or should I say, "That was your plan, wasn't?".....

GROW UP FOR GOODNESS SAKE!
Such tale telling are for school kids "I friend you. I don't friend you. So and so said this and that about you........."

To me, even the best of friends will have something which the other does not like.
Its normal!!!
Even if they are so alike in thoughts and taste and dressing and what have you.
Haven't you heard, like poles repel?

Over the years, I have learned one VERY VERY IMPORTANT lesson.
If I did Not hear from the horse's mouth, I Choose NOT to believe.

There is always such a thing call MISUNDERSTANDING.
There are selective listeners.
There are lousy speakers, who cannot find the right words to express THE EXACT THOUGHTS.

Do you know how detrimental these 2 types of people start talking?!
The result can go 9000 feet underground.
Its that harmful.
Its that HURTFUL when what they THOUGHT they said, or what they THOUGHT they heard is being transferred to another person.

So what did I tell Y?
"Does it matter? 
Will you still care about X, even IF those words were really said? 
What do you think is the purpose of W telling you all these? 
You know X for decades, won't you think you know X better than W, who hardly talk to X in years?"

Y quietened and found the answer in Y's heart.

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If I heard someone tell me something bad about another person, that is his/her opinion.
I have NO RIGHT to pass someone else's thoughts.
When I am a listener, I BE A LISTENER!

Humans are loving creatures.
Humans need relationships of all sorts to find emotional rest.
So why choose to break one, when you have one to treasure?

Think!
Please!

All I can say is what W did was TOTALLY UNNECESSARY, unless W has something up W's sleeves.........which apparantly, when taken few steps back and look at the entire situation from an outsider's point of view, its highly possible.......

Then again, never assume.
Time will reveal what's hidden under W's sleeves.............



Sunday, July 27, 2014

Song Sharing Sunday #285 - 好听-许茹芸

Its been a long time since I last posted a Chinese Song.
When I heard this song on the variety show today, I realised how much I missed this crystal clear sweet voice.
Not a die-hard fan of 许茹芸 , but have always loved her voice.
Its those type of voice which will make any shuffling feet stop........and listen.






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Sunday, July 20, 2014

Song Sharing Sunday #284 - Raging Fire ~ Phillip Phillips

Usually, I'm pretty bias when it comes to songs and singers.
If I do not like the singer, I usually will not like his/her songs.
Could it be I've changed?
Could it be I've learned to appreciate the song even though I do not like the one singing it?
or
Could it simply be because of the lyrics, that speaks to my heart.....?

Whatever!
Its the case for this song....




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Sunday, July 13, 2014

Song Sharing Sunday #283 - Safe and Sound ~ Capital Cities

When was the last time you heard a song which made you feel like rocking to the beat, the VERY FIRST time you hear it?!
For me,
it was this!




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Sunday, July 6, 2014

Song Sharing Sunday #282 - Let Her Go ~ Passenger

Have you ever sing a song with your children........in harmony?
My boys have graduated from singing Rock-A-Bye-Baby with me long ago.
This is the latest song we'll see together.

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Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Slimmer Waist, Happier Me!

I love to eat.
My friends know that.
Someone once said: "Buffet? Bring Angeline along, she'll make every cent worth it!"
*laugh*

Yet,
it comes with a price,
that weighs heavily on my waist, hip and thigh.

So heavy that I was forced to throw away some of my favourite jeans.
Heart Pain!
*sigh*
I should have kept all of them, if I knew this day would come.



If you are looking forward to see a GINORMOUS change in my waist, 
I'm sorry, 
you will be disappointed.
My change is NOT impressive, 
but its good enough for me.


Slimming down is not a destination, its a continuation.

Its a lifestyle
Its a mindset
Its a choice



I managed to get a few centimeters off my waist over 3 months because of 6 simple rules
  1. Detox the natural way for 1st 7 days (I believe 90% will give up here. So if this fails, the results will not be ideal)
  2. Eat More, But Eat Right (NEVER STARVE NOR BE HUNGRY! I eat almost every 2-3 hourly and that includes SUPPER!) I LOVE THIS! The more I eat, the slimmer I get! Thus, I do not need to give up my love for biting and chewing. So if there is buffet, I'll still be there! *huge laugh*
  3. Little Exercise, But with Variety (You wanna slim down, you've got to firm up. No running from it.)
  4. Journal (Keep track daily)
  5. Someone to WATCH over you (Give advise, suggestions and encouragement when you deviate from what needs to be done)
  6. 7-8 Hours of Sleep every day 

My results would have been better, if I had stick to 7-8 hours of sleep daily.
In the past 3 months, the days I had 7-8 hours of sleep, were less than 10.
I either sleep too little, like 3 hours or sleep too much, like 12 hours.
*palm face*

I am not a professional, so I did not know what was the right way to take a good photo of my before and after.
All that I know was to grab those NUMBERS on the measuring tape.

It all began with 52.2kg at the beginning of April 2014.
I had problem buckling one of my most comfortable jeans.
My most comfortable jeans became uncomfortable, especially after my dinner meeting with friends.

****ALL PHOTOS were taken 
in the morning 
before food 
and after poo-ed.




I had such encounters before and each time, I had to throw my jeans away.
I REALLY liked this pair of jeans very much and was not ready to let history repeat itself.

So I made up my mind to STOP this jeans-throwing ritual once and for all.
I decided to slim down my waistline and lower abdomen.

As I focused on those two areas, I noticed that my hip size shrunk too.
Then followed by my thighs.
Well, hip and thighs were not my issues to begin with, but it was definitely a bonus to have those two parts slimmed down too.

After a week of Detox plus a week of corrected lifestyle, my weight starts to show results.
However, my aim is on INCHES on the measuring tape and 
Not the KGs on the weighing scale.

 



NEVER did I once had to weigh any calories before I eat.
I eat almost anything that is NOT processed or canned or carbonated. (Sadly, I do not have a say in what I eat every Sunday when I go over to my in-law's place. *sigh*)
And I do not like to exercise much either.
I am just a really lazy person! *laugh*

So what I had been through fits my Always-Eat-Out and Don't-Cook-At-Home lifestyle.

Nonetheless, I kicked a bad habit of mine.
Which is to sit down or stay seated after meals.
Now, I will get my butt off the chair after each meal and walk/stand for at least 30mins.
This small action HELPED ALOT!!!!


Towards the end of the 2nd month, my slimmer waist challenge came to a plateau.
It stopped at this for a long time :-




This is very common.
Just reactivate that slimming machine again and you'll be fine.
Keep that positivity alive in you.


During this lower body slimming journey, 
I found that there are 4 types of people who will have a harder time.

People who :
Have Digestive Issues
Are Lack of Vitamins Bs
Are Highly Carbo sensitive 
Do Not Like to Drink Plain Water


So if you belong to these categories, you will need to settle these areas too during the 3 months, as well as have a STRONGER MINDSET than others who want to get rid of BODY FATS.

Losing weight does NOT equal to losing fats.
You might just be losing water!
And that is even more unhealthy!

Losing BODY FATS and Losing WEIGHT is totally different.
What you want to lose is BODY FATS.
And sadly, most regimes out there does not tackle that.
Thus people who had slimmed down put those weight back on or even more than before.

No crash dieting please.
It JUST DOES NOT WORK THAT WAY.
We want to STAY slim and NOT be slim for a short while.


Alright,
3 months passed.
And this is my results:












Nothing impressive.
But its enough for me.

Slimming down is not a destination, its a continuation.
Its about maintaining.

Well, I can't stop growing old, but at least I want to look slim and healthy even when I'm old.

CHEERS!






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