Is Your Relationship in Danger?

Let me count... 1... 2... 3...4...
yes that is how many of my friends/relatives are getting into the danger zone in their relationship with their spouse.
Have 'counselled' them, have spent time with them, but truly, in a realtionship, if one really wants to make an effort to get out of that rejection situation and back into the passionate intimacy life that first started off, it all boils down to whether are you willing to try everything, including doing nothing at all?

How often we try to do what we think is best to salvage the relationship, little did we realise that the problem actually lies exactly in that!

In a point of frustration and rejection, no idea is a good idea.

Take a step back. 

Take time to hush. 

Start to listen. 

Bring yourself out of the situation and see it from outside the box.
Does the problem really lies with your spouse?
Or is it YOU?....

It is never easy to control others thoughts, actions and words.
But you and Only You can control Your thoughts, actions and words....

I always believe that it takes two to clap.
It takes two to fight.
It takes two to have a reaction.
If you are able to take control of one ~ which is YOU.
Don't you see that 50% of the battle is won?

So what if you think you are right in every argument?
My question is, was the argument necessary? 
Was the argument edifying?
Did the argument improve your relationship?

Very often, every argument is a struggle for power.
I AM RIGHT = I have POWER.
I have a higher authority than you.

Is relationship a struggle of power?
Does making your spouse feel 'small' magnifies your ego?
So what if your ego is raised?
You have hurt the one whom you vowed to spend the rest of your life with.
Is it worth it?

You want ego?
Get yourself a job!
Climb up that hierachy ladder.
Be at the top! And there your ego is!
Not crush your wife or husband with your heavy ego.
That is power in the wrong place!

God made Eve from the side bone of Adam.
It represents equality.
It represents companionship.
It means being side by side with each other through thick and thin.
Not towering over one another.


Close your eyes and let your mind brings you back to the day the proposal was done,
the wedding was held and
the day fireworks lit the sky when your eyes met.
Find that passion again.
Find that reason again.
That reason is powerful enough to break the 'wall' that separates you two now...

*Hugs*